How to communicate with spirits and talk to ghosts

Why contact the dead?

So this is where you’re wondering how to contact and communicate with spirits?

Before any contact, you absolutely need a valid reason. We’re not talking about disturbing a spirit to find out what the weather will be like tomorrow. You need a clear and useful reason.

Nor am I talking about disturbing a spirit to carry out an act meant to harm someone. I am against this practice, and I strongly urge anyone who wants to do it to think twice first. Even if you’re angry, or if you feel some other negative, overwhelming emotion toward a person, you must not turn to magic.

Every intention, good or bad, comes to life in the astral plane. From then on, every positive intention joins a positive egregore, which fuels the engine of positive energies. An egregore is a kind of inexhaustible cluster of energies (to put it simply). If your intention is negative, on the other hand, it will feed the surrounding spirits, feed the negative egregore, and cause damage…

It’s as if you went to a restaurant, ate your meal, and decided not to pay the bill. That’s not how it works… A negative intention has a price. You don’t disturb negatively charged Spirits just for fun. They want something in return for their action. So you’ll pay dearly for it, one way or another: you, the person who asked a sorcerer for help, and the sorcerer too.

That’s exactly why he asks you to pay! And then, good luck… You may be paying the price for a lifetime. So think carefully. Revenge, but why? Why not let divine justice take care of the rest? Returning evil for evil, and continuing a chain that may have begun in a past life, is a sure ticket to another reincarnation. There, once again, you’ll be faced with the same choice: either take revenge again and again, and learn nothing worthwhile, or break the vicious circle and grow spiritually. Because that is the whole reason for our incarnation: to progress, to evolve, to cleanse ourselves of our past faults so that we no longer reincarnate… one day.

In short, remember that your reason for contacting a spirit must be positive, with a constructive purpose.

How to communicate with spirits

One day, everyone faces the death of a loved one. Some then live with the regret of not having said everything to the person who passed, or would like an explanation for a death that remains unexplained. The need not to break the bond becomes strong. The question of how to communicate with spirits keeps coming back, more and more insistently, as people look for answers. How can you talk to the ghosts of the past? Who can communicate with spirits? How do you find a good medium to contact the dead?

You can’t become a medium overnight. Because a medium is an “intermediary” between the earthly world (all mortals) and the astral world (the entities). The medium is the one who acts as the relay between you and the spirit you’re trying to reach.
In this article, I offer you different methods you can use to communicate with spirits, with or without a medium. You may find answers in them to help you in your quest. But note that a medium will use the technique they feel most comfortable with. They may favor automatic writing, or hold an inner dialogue with the entity and then pass it on to you. No method is 100% reliable, and none is better than another.

But how do I find my way through this spirit contact?

How to communicate with spirits safely

You can’t contact the dead without protecting yourself first. If you’re not protected, it’s like leaving your front door open while you go to work. If you come back and your house is empty, you only have yourself to blame.

When you contact a spirit, you lend it either your hand (in automatic writing: we’ll come back to this) or your body (trance mediumship). So protection prayers are essential. You can ask for the protection of your Guardian Angel, of the positive spiritual entities available, or a religious protection… Stones can also be used, and so can consecrated candles.

If you go ahead without caring about your protection, you open cracks, and the spirit is free to rush in… or not. Even if your guest doesn’t, nothing stops a passing soul in search of thrills from coming to tease you: a little, a lot, passionately, madly… So you may end up with a poltergeist that won’t leave, or with cases of possession. Some spiritualists even interpret certain experiences of hearing voices this way, but anyone who hears voices should first and foremost see a physician.

So under no circumstances should you contact spirits without being aware of the risks you’re taking…

When to contact someone who has passed

Many of the people who consult me want to contact someone who has passed, either because that person died by suicide and they’re looking for answers, or because they feel they couldn’t say everything.

Contacting a spirit alone or with a medium

Some entities may prefer to do without a medium, to pass on a message that’s too personal, or because they don’t want to involve a third party if you’re receptive enough. You can contact a medium who specializes in communicating with spirits. Our psychic platform lets you have a psychic reading. A psychic reading by webcam lets you see the psychic at work, and so watch the message being passed on. But you can also choose a psychic reading by phone, by email, or a psychic reading by chat, as you prefer. In any case, the communication with the deceased will take place. If it doesn’t, the medium will tell you.

Communicating through dreams

To do this, I advise you to think several times about the entity you want to contact. Do it several times during the day, calling it by name. Arrange to meet it that very night. Tell it how the contact will happen. Tell it that in the evening, just before going to bed, you’ll think about it. Whether or not you use an object that was dear to it. With its photo next to you. In short, any tool that can help the communication is welcome, of course.

Then tell it, out loud or not, that during the night you’ll naturally lower your defenses and your resistance to communicate with him or her. Then ask to keep a clear memory of your meeting when you wake up.

If it doesn’t work, don’t worry too much. You can repeat the experience several times until contact is made. If it still isn’t, the entity may not yet be allowed to come to you. Give it time, because not everything depends on it. Or perhaps it really did come, and you simply weren’t aware of it when you woke up. Anything is possible.

Communicating with the dead through meditation

If the “easy” option of dreams doesn’t suit you, you can also do it alone, simply by meditating.

For that, of course, you need the right setting. You can’t meditate with children next to you, with your cell phone on, or right after an argument with your partner…

To meditate, you need a structuring framework, a kind of ritual if you prefer. Once again, it’s better to create your own ritual than to copy your neighbor’s: you know better than anyone what suits you best. If you’d like to help yourself with incense or music, anything goes, as long as nothing around you comes to disturb you. Soft background music and incense can be good tools. A burning candle, on the other hand, isn’t ideal… Let’s avoid any danger.

Some people favor a particular time of day: some are more receptive in the morning, others at nightfall, when everything seems asleep. It’s all a matter of preference.

When your setting is right, the meditation can begin: calm and relaxation are essential. Cell phone off, children asleep, window closed (or not: if you live in the countryside, it’s nice to hear the sounds of nature, which can serve as background sound), in clothes that suit the moment (that don’t restrict your breathing, for example).

Meditation is an art, and it can’t be learned in a single day. To make spirit contact through meditation, you need practice. Then it all depends on how you learn. If you usually learn fairly quickly, you’ll feel the benefits of your practice fairly soon (starting with feeling more relaxed, and so on). If you find it hard, never mind: Rome wasn’t built in a day. Persevere until you get your first results. That said, don’t be stubborn about it: if it doesn’t work, don’t try to force your way through a steel door… It may come, or it may not!

When you meditate, your brain waves change. You relax. You’re neither asleep nor awake, but in a kind of in-between state. If intrusive thoughts come to disturb you while you meditate, watch them pass the way you watch clouds drift across the sky. You can’t get rid of these thoughts, except with enough practice to learn to discipline your mind.

If you find the practice difficult, you can use what’s called a guided meditation. A voice gradually guides you to slow your brain waves down and brings you into a relaxing state that favors meditation. You can use YouTube videos or CDs, or write your own text and record yourself beforehand. You’re the one in control!

Contacting a deceased loved one through automatic writing

Automatic writing can also be a way to contact the dead. Once again, a beginner can’t use this technique.

It also depends on how fast you progress. At first, some people only get lines, or even fragments of drawings, while others fill page after page from their very first attempts.

Usually, when a spirit wants to contact me, I feel a kind of heaviness in my right hand. It could have been the left: some mediums who practice automatic writing have discovered that they can easily write with their left hand although they’re right-handed, but only in automatic writing. In everyday life, they may not be ambidextrous at all. Which goes to show that this is something science can’t explain, and yet it exists…

In automatic writing, either the medium writes what they hear (and then keeps their usual handwriting), or they make room for the entity. The entity then takes control of its host’s hand and stays as long as it needs to say everything it has to say. Some entities can then recover bodily sensations through their host and find their handwriting of old, which may be completely different from the host’s. A second curiosity!

To learn more, I invite you to read “Dites-leur que la mort n’existe pas” (tell them that death does not exist) by Jean Winter and Gérald de Dampierre, which deals precisely with automatic writing. The authors chose to make their spirit conversations public.

That said, automatic writing is, in my view, one of the techniques that use up the most energy.

Ouija boards and glass divination to summon spirits

Table-turning is nothing new. It was practiced long before our era to summon spirits. So we deserve no credit for using it today.

These techniques have come down through the centuries, and they’re actually the ones teenagers use most to call spirits. But adolescence also means taking risks. Glass divination sessions and Ouija boards then serve thoughtless purposes, like scaring each other or entertaining the crowd. And that can turn into a disaster… Because when you try to impress the crowd, the spirits of the lower astral find perfect hosts to pour themselves into, to frighten people, and even to go as far as cases of possession… You don’t summon spirits with impunity.

As soon as your intentions aren’t worthy, you open the door to low-“level” spirits, or rather low-“frequency” ones. It’s a kind of alignment: the spirits you call “tune in” to your frequencies. When you summon spirits, your frequencies are “broadcast”, and in the end a spirit answers the call. So be very careful with your summonings.

Glass divination means arranging Scrabble letters in a circle, with the word “yes” on the left and the word “no” on the right. The glass is then used by the participants who wish to take part in a contact with the beyond. Before you start, begin with a prayer, with thanks, and above all with requests for protection for each participant. You can choose to summon a familiar spirit, or any benevolent spirit that wishes to communicate with you. Then, as soon as the entity you called arrives, it makes itself known through the movements of the glass. The glass moves toward the letters, which form words, then sentences.

These glass sessions must not be held to entertain the crowd, and don’t call on spirits for trivial purposes either. Summonings must be done with respect for the entity that comes to you. Don’t use Ouija boards or glass sessions to communicate with a celebrity (whatever their background): an entity disturbed for nothing will make you understand that this isn’t a game. It will tell you, with a warning (or not), or it will wreck your home and settle there for good.

Summoning a spirit involves risks that are important to consider.

Simply communicating with a lost loved one

If spirit contact really frightens you, rightly or wrongly, I recommend another very simple technique that anyone can use.

You can pray, either in your own words or by reciting a religious prayer. You can do it at home or in a consecrated place (a church, for example).

Settle into a serene state of mind, in a setting of calm and peace. Then speak to your lost loved one, out loud or not. Don’t worry: your words will reach them, one way or another. Tell them everything that’s on your heart. If you can, dedicate a candle to them, so that it may light their way.

How long should you wait before talking to a lost loved one?

When a soul separates from the physical body, breaking the silver cord that kept it alive, a process begins. Freed from the physical burden of its body, the spirit starts to rise until it reaches the vibrations that match its level of elevation. It may then be welcomed by entities it knew, who accompany it into this new state.

But don’t attempt to communicate with it too soon: you might disturb it before contact is even possible. Give your lost loved one time to find their bearings. When they’re able to communicate with you, they will, one way or another. Depending on their state, they’ll be able to communicate with you more or less quickly. If they clung to their money, their work, or their reputation, their transformation into a spirit may take a long time, or even an eternity if they can’t be reasoned with. If they were ready to go and had begun spiritual work, their release will come all the sooner.

In any case, the wisest thing is to wait for the person who has passed to come back to you, rather than the other way around. Listen to your emotions and your feelings, so that you notice the signs they’ll surely place on your path.

Our tips for communicating with a spirit

For a spirit to make itself known to you, it has to be allowed to. If it isn’t, this may be temporary or permanent.

For a spirit to come to you, it has to lower its vibrational frequencies, which takes a lot of energy. It may then “draw” on the energy of its audience, or of the host asking for the communication. When you contact spirits for a worthy reason, you also raise your own vibrational frequencies. In short, it’s as if the two of you (the spirit and you) met halfway.

Contacting a spirit takes energy. If you feel you’re not at your best, for whatever reason (tiredness, tension, irritation, an unsettled emotional state), whatever you do, don’t do it. Even if you want to help the person asking you, take care of yourself first.

Going further

To go further, I invite you to read books such as Allan Kardec’s: “The Spirits’ Book” and “The Mediums’ Book” are two founding works of Spiritism, and I recommend adding them to your esoteric reading list. Remember that you can communicate with spirits in different ways, but that you must always do it well protected, and with a worthy purpose.